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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • Something new is good advice.

    It’s temping to do something familiar to minimise the “risk” of a bad experience, but that’s false safety.

    It’s human nature to get defensive of what we already know we like, and it puts the other person in a difficult position too where they may feel forced to pretend, or to keep their genuine opinion quiet.

    Something new puts you both on an even footing, leaving neither disadvantaged, and that’s cool. And - as you say - even if it’s terrible, at least you can both laugh about it.







  • It’s not “people” who are causing the proliferation of formats like webp though, it’s the web industry.

    If you are a web platform, you want a format that gives you acceptable quality for the smallest size to reduce your bandwidth. You also want one that loads as fast as possible from a CPU prospective, so your site renders as fast as possible.

    These are factors webp was designed for.

    To your point, for home users jpeg remains a good-enough choice with no reason to change it. A preferred choice even, due to broad legacy compatibility. But we aren’t seeing proliferation of webp because people are at home willingly going “file -> export as -> webp” - no, we’re seeing it because industry is converting uploads to it, and people are saving those images.






  • If you’ve previously had the experience of reaching out to someone politely in good faith about a problem with your purchase, and they really were a scammer and responded “haha get fucked loser” and blocked you, that’s a mentally damaging interaction. You made yourself vulnerable and got taken advantage of. Not just once for buying from a scammer, but twice for then politely asking the scammer to help you! And that feels awful - as if the scammer “won”, and you are a sucker who didn’t even realise you’d been scammed.

    That is why people are quick to go on the offensive when they suspect they’ve been wronged, because they’ve been hurt before and want to try and claw back some small measure of pride by saying effectively “Okay you scammed me, but I’m not so stupid I don’t see it, and I won’t make myself vulnerable to you.” - that’s what the message and block you received really means, if you unpack it.

    I would be so much nicer if things weren’t this way, and we could assume the best in people. With honest sellers such as yourself, it would even lead to the problem getting fixed! But there are a lot of scammers out there, so I understand the psychological “why”, even if I don’t like it and try to never behave that way myself.