Fully understandable… almost. I’ll admit I’m a little confused to hear there’s a porn addiction in the mix. Not in a judgement kinda way, porn can be fine for some people, but I don’t normally associate heavy porn usage with low-libido?
Again, neither is inherently wrong, I’m just surprised and wonder if maybe I misread the situation, you know?
One thing I’d be curious about for you, if you’d be open to it, would be looking for someone in the poly community. Obviously people in the poly community tend to be on the more sexual side of the spectrum, but not all such people are always exclusively about sex. Counter-intuitively you may be able to find someone in that community that can go your speed, not because they live at that speed naturally, but because you aren’t their only outlet for that stuff, so they may be fine with you being just a romantic partner. And there’s no reason you need to have multiple partners, so long as you’re okay with your partner having multiple partners.
The most obvious risk is if you’re romantically jealous, besides the more obvious sexually jealous. That may be a deal-breaker. And if you’re looking for someone to be with you at all times, that’s probably not going to work either.
But if you approach it was openness and a “what have I got to lose” attitude, you may be able to find some low-pressure companionship!
Quick note if you look into it: you may see the term “solo poly”. And you may think this either means a poly person currently only with a single partner, or maybe a poly person that is currently unpartnered. These would be good guesses but also wrong! Solo poly is a person who essentially has relationships with other people, but always secondary to their relationship with themselves. Effectively they’re not looking to move in together or “get too serious” or whatever, just dating, and they maintain a “solo lifestyle”. This doesn’t have to mean nothing is long term, it doesn’t have to mean it’s only casual hookups, but if you’re looking for a life partner or someone to wake up next to every morning or do taxes with, this isn’t their vibe.
Good luck!
Glad I could help 😛
Naturally, normal qualifiers apply: everyone exists at some place on a spectrum, this does not describe all experiences, etc.
But given the numbers and vibe of comments, it seems like it resonates with some people who aren’t you 😉
You know when you’re talking to someone and they have maybe a crumb or flake on their face, and you can’t help but be drawn to watch it just in case it falls, but whether it does or doesn’t fall that wouldn’t impact you in any way? But it’s distracting anyway?
That’s all women’s chests. I’m not lecherous, I have a wife and female friends, I’m vigilant and keep it in check, but I’m compelled to check on them over and over. My wife’s, stranger’s, doesn’t matter. Even if I’ve seen my wife’s every day while she was changing for 11 years. What if they were to sway a certain way? What if there was a slight bounce and I missed it? What if the fabric became taut and revealed a line beneath. Or a shape. Perhaps a slight nub in the center? Was that there a second ago? Does that mean anything? I’d better check back to see if it changes again. The buttons on her blouse are slightly stretched, and if she moves just right I may be able to see a glimpse of skin. Not breast skin, goodness no, just any skin currently covered by the shirt. If I’m lucky it’ll have some shadow on it to imply shape. This dress has a dip in the front. I wonder if I could… It would never reveal anything. It wouldn’t. But what if it did. I can’t know unless I look. This shirt is slightly sheer in the light. What’s beneath?
The fabric stretched across her backside displays lines when she bends slightly forward. Now I know she’s wearing underwear. I mean, of course she is, everyone is… but now I know she is. And its shape. Her bum looks soft. Cushioned. If I were up against it I could really- No! No. But I could. And it would press against me. Stop it. And I could reach forward from behind, slide my hands up her sides and cup her- No! No Goddammit! They look like they’d be soft. In my hands.
The older woman in black’s shirt just slid slightly up above her waistline, revealing a sliver of skin. There was nothing unexpected or special about this skin. It wasn’t overtly attractive, but I saw it. It was covered and I saw it. Does she know I saw it? I’m glad I saw it.
The waitress in the tight shirt smiled at me. She’s younger than me, but not too young. Right? No. I mean, it’d be a little creepy, but not like… creepy creepy right? And maybe she’s into that? Probably not, it’s clearly all about tips. She’s a professional, she knows what she’s doing. Yeah she does… Besides, what could even happen. I’m getting dinner, with my wife, and she probably doesn’t even get off for hours. But… just statistically some younger women are into older guys right? And I’m not complete dogshit. It’s clearly about just being nice, it’s part of the service industry. Is it so unbelievable that any woman could find me attractive? Is that fucking impossible? No but- She smiled while looking into my eyes. That’s something right? No. It’s not, I was just passing the machine back to her after paying. Her lips look soft. Maybe no one’s ever kissed her well before. Like sure she’s probably had a lot of male interest, but they were probably all douchebags. They probably didn’t even care about her pleasure. I could. I mean I would. Like, if I weren’t here and she weren’t here and we met at a different time and place and things were casual, I think she’d be lucky for me to show her… What the fuck am I even…
When she turned to leave a thin line of her underwear flashed briefly above her yoga pants. Now I know they’re blue.
Oh, the human interaction is annoying! Yeah gotcha. That makes more sense!
git log will only show you commits in your history. If you’re only ever working forwards, this will contain all the stuff you’ll ever need.
But if you’re rewriting history, like with a rebase or squash or something, or you’re deleting branches without merging them, then you can run into a situation where the official history of your branch doesn’t contain some of the commits that used to exist, and in fact still exist but are unlinked from anywhere. So reflog is the log of where you’ve been, even if where you’ve been isn’t in the official history anymore, so you can find your way back to previous states even if there isn’t otherwise a name for them.
If all you care about is your current history, git can use the dates of commits just fine to see where you were on Thursday without needing the reflog.
Maybe I’m just a wizard, or I don’t know what y’all are talking about, but rebases aren’t special. If you use git reflog it just tells you where you used to be before the rebase. You don’t have to fix anything, git is append only. See where the rebase started in reflog, it’ll say rebase in the log line, then git reset --hard THAT_HASH
Pushing without fetching should be an error. So either they got the error, didn’t think about it, and then force pushed, or someone taught them to just always force push. In either case the problem is the force part, the tool is built to prevent this by default.
Continuing after merge should be pretty easy? I’d assume rebase just does it? Unless the merge was a squash merge or rebase merge. Then yeah, slightly annoying, but still mostly git rebase -i and then delete lines look like they were already merged?
Does… does India belong in “the Arab world”? Because I don’t think…
Sorry, did you mean a lifetime membership to Jellyfin? Because I don’t think there is such a thing…
I think the slightly more charitable division is “nerds who want to work on the tool” vs “nerds who want to use the tool to work on something else”
Some people want their discord chat to work with little effort or errors because what they’re actually interested in is some video editor, or something. And if the chat is broken, it prevents then from getting to what they really want.
I personally use XMPP, so this isn’t just to clear my own name, or anything.