That’s pretty concerning, my mother went through a similar relationship early in her life, he was older than my grandparents.

You do you, but anecdotally, for her, the relationship may have started out okay, but they were never equal. He treated her like a daughter that he fucked every once in a while. Power dynamics in relationships are extra screwy when the age gap is more than 20 years. Our holiday dinners at home were always very awkward.

Their relationship lasted about 20 years, imo it should never have started in the first place. She remarried afterwards to someone her age and finally found some companionship instead of stewardship, that relationship lasted much longer

Super cool of your parents to support you like that, not cool of them to control you, most parents like this miss the memo that kids need to actually start making decisions for themselves.

By sunk cost fallacy, I assume you mean about the money. Giving them all the money back at once is an interesting idea, how would you feel if a child of yours did that? How would you feel if they were up front about their new situation?

You know your parents and your situation better than any of us, use empathy and put yourself in their shoes and make the best decision you can.

It can be hard to put this into words well because it’s different in every situation and making universal statements are rarely correct but I’ll do my best

The problem here is twofold, 1. You feel insecure and 2. Your job is at risk

When interacting with people, not just at work, there are some keys to being well liked. You can be direct, but being direct often comes across as an air of superiority, as if you’re saying “I’m too good to pretend or do what everyone else is doing”. You’re saying you are above thinking about how your words will be received, and it’s the receiver’s job to avoid getting their emotions involved.

In a community, when one person considers themselves better than everyone else via this kind of “better than you” behavior, people will generally consider that person unfriendly or outcast them.

Capitulation and going with the flow of expectations is surprisingly one of the best ways to get ahead, it’s counter intuitive but debasing yourself for the ego of others (harsh way to phrase it, but true) can often make them amenable to just about anything you want. We are remarkably complex, yet fundamentally simple creatures, it doesn’t take much to make a person likable.

2k downloads weekly it looks like not dollars

You know what, unfortunately for some in the target demographic the answer is yes. Those who capitulated and got jobs as ice agents got a huge sign on bonus and livable salary. Bribed to terrorize

Who’s taking bets that the next one will embrace the Mormon moniker again

As someone who has experienced feelings for both genders, it has been my experience that feelings can develop without trying to start a relationship. That said there are people out there who are demisexual, but I doubt that would be limited to one gender for you.

Good:

1. I have high hopes that Nepal’s new government will bring positive change
2. Crispr science combined with some new good results with protein models may help us develop some incredible new health technology
3. In the financial world, less reliance on the US, and a shift away from usd in general would be a huge boon to the international community

Bad:

1. Massive economic instability worldwide, inflation everywhere, people will have an even worse time affording things once the worlds petrol distribution eases up
2. taiwan’s troubles are likely to pick up the pace with more international events to smokescreen their bully to the west
3. The transition to ai will likely push more of our society to crime, and lower the payment bar for many professions

They’re all pretty fired up at the update velocity tbh 🤷

Nah, generative ai is pretty remarkably useful for software development. I’ve written dozens of product updates with tools like claudecode and cursorai, dismissing it as a novelty is reductive and straight up incorrect