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Don’t go to university, unless you really want to work in engineering or teaching.
You’ll be saddled with student debt and your job prospects will be worse than if you decided to start flipping burgers or stacking shelves at 18.
- Workout. Doesn’t have to be a lot but be consistent
- No matter what everyone says, keep on learning.
- Try to be in contact with your close friends
- Don’t compare yourself to someone else. There will always be someone better.
- Develop some hobbies which doesn’t involve a mobile phone or other people
- Read books. Even two books a year is great.
- Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Fully agree abiut nitocine and tobacco.
Hard disagree about a lot of other drugs. I’m not encouraging their use, but harm reduction is a big deal, it saves lives.
If you’re gonna take drugs, do your research ahead of time, and please test your drugs. If your friends are gonna take drugs, be the friend that makes sure they get their drugs tested too. Don’t just take your dealer’s word for it if they say their stuff was tested - even if they’re telling the truth, building the habit to always test, no matter what, is gonna rub off on other folks to do the same. And know what narcan is and try to have some around.
tripsafe.org and erowid.org are excellent resources for this.
I’m not encouraging their use, but harm reduction is a big deal, it saves lives
Can you tell me which kind of drugs are these? I promise i’m not a fed :P
PS: I am excluding medical marijuana. I know they are useful in certain scenarios.
Expanding on your first point, be aware of the difference between “workout” and “work out”.
“Workout” is a noun. “Work out” is a verb. You can tell because you can conjugate the verb without having to split it apart.
“He works out”, and not “He workouts” or “He worksout”. That’s how you know it needs a space.
You can tell the one without a space is a noun because you can pluralize it. “Arm workouts for women”.
As a bonus: “Every day” means “each and every day”. “Everyday” means “typical”, like for clothing.
You could have “everyday clothes”. But you don’t “work out everyday” – you work out every day.
It’s funny when someone says “i workout everyday” thinking they wrote three words, yet they made three spelling/grammar mistakes. Even monolingual English speakers make these kinds of mistakes.
I know the difference instinctively but i think i may have written it wrong in many places. “I’ll add this exercise to my workout” vs “We should work out more”.
Thanks for the detailed explanation.
It’s even trickier with autocorrect. Especially if it’s one of the “smart” ones that remembers the words you use. Make the mistake once and you’re doomed!
The workout part 😅
Edit: okay, I’ll man up
Never. Start. Smoking. I know it’s really obvious advice, but after you smoke cigarettes for the first time, it’s so fucking easy to become a smoker and saying no is infinitely harder. Nicotine is a removed.
That’s why you only smoke weed 😎
Get a vasectomy
This will be great for my daughter, thank you
Maybe there are gift cards
99% of what sucks now won’t bother you later in life.
Just the collapse of society and climate change.
True, but that’s only two of exactly two hundred recognized problems in our time. That’s why I left that last percentage open.
Get off instagram and tiktok
Second this.
How?
Apparently, 6 years ago, some duche picked up my phone. I forced myself to use a burner due to utter stupidity of leaving my phone in the first place for about 2 weeks.
They were the most peaceful two weeks of my life!
I could hear myself think again, I slept early, which made my 9to5 fully present and focused. I started engaging with people, got heartbroken for that, maybe my fault, point is, I started feeling the air as I breathed in and out.
So liberating.
Good guy Greg, stealing your phone to help with your addiction.
Dude, I was so pissed at myself, only to find out it was addiction, I could always buy a new phone.
Do teenagers still use Facebook? That too.
read more books and brush your teeth
Learn to say no when something or someone doesn’t jive with you. Be able to say no even if someone threatens the friendship or relationship or whatever because if they talk like that, they are manipulating you and its a strong indicator they have more power in the relatiinship which they are abusing to take advantage of you.
Speak up, make some noise. The squeaky wheel is always the one that gets the grease or at least whatever grease there is to be gotten.
Practice your critical thinking skills now.
Don’t too much about grades or college admissions. It’s really not worth it, especially with how it’s pushed as the only important thing. Make sure you pass all your classes but don’t worry about getting all A’s or getting into the ivy leagues
Don’t take out student loans. Ever. It’s a scam
Community college rocks. Don’t be afraid to.go, but it’s not a silver bullet
Read books. Especially the ones that they’re banning and pulling from libraries. Get a good eBook reader for your phone, use Anna’s archive.
Self education is more useful than school, make sure to do a lot of it. Teach yourself stuff, learn skills
Learn how to tell which adults are full of crap and which ones are worth listening to
Don’t let the fascists take away your rights, including whatever “protect the children” moral panic is going on, that’s just a scam to control you
Speaking of scams to control you, question the religion you were raised in
Learn the signs of abusive relationships, it’s super important and no one ever emphasizes it. Don’t tolerate abusive treatment from anyone
Don’t gamble
High school is like prison, the social scene is totally artificial. The only people you’ll even talk to afterwards are the friends you made, and even then only if the friendship was deeper than “we had the same class together”
Internet friends are just as good as IRL friends, especially if you are having trouble making IRL friends because your school/neighborhood sucks.
Traditional life paths don’t work anymore, our time is one of radical transformation. Feel free to experiment and see what works for you
Let yourself be cringe sometimes. Understand that learning how to be yourself is an active skill, as is learning how and when to wear a more socially appropriate mask (because “just be yourself” is overly idealistic advice that can end up being demoralising).
It’s okay to struggle. Adults will often tell teenagers that whatever they’re struggling with doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of it all, and that’s incredibly isolating to hear, even if it’s true. Certainly, the problems that I grapple with now are objectively far larger and weightier than what felt world-ending to me as a teenager, but what’s the point in emphasising objectivity when we experience everything through our own subjective experience?
My life is objectively more difficult than it was when I was younger, but despite this, I would never choose to go back and re-experience my teenage years. I was miserable back then, and as an adult, I relish the power that I have to make my own choices, even if that power comes with a whole host of responsibilities. I know it’s cheesy and trite to say “it gets better” (especially because that frames improvement as inevitable, which feels hollow), but for some people, it does get better — it did for me.
So let yourself be messy sometimes, and recognise that your struggles are valid, no matter what they are. It’s a lot of pressure to be your age — society seems to expect teenagers to know what they want from life, which is silly to me, given that many adults don’t know what they want. No matter how thoroughly you plan, there will be things you simply can’t plan for — some good, some bad. Give yourself space to grow, and you’ll make it easier for life’s surprises to be good ones.
And finally, the big secret about adulthood is that no-one really knows what they’re doing. Realising this is terrifying, but liberating. I might not always know how to best support you, and you might not know what help to ask for when you’re struggling, but we can figure that out together. Just try to hang in there — as a fellow human who feels overwhelmed by the world, I’m here with you.
Take the fun electives in school, there’s no guarantee it’ll still be there next year and graduation requirements may change in your last year.
kill all your social media accounts. you will do 5-10x better in life.
Protect your privacy
Fail fast and fail forward. Don’t be afraid to start, be afraid of looking back having never done anything. Regret is poison.
Learn what the pareto principle is and live by it. Be efficient.
When life gets hard focus on what’s in front of you not on the world, ideology, news, thats all distraction. Learn to stay in the moment, what’s right here, right now, infront of you.
Cherish loved ones. Focus on your health now. Your health can be gone at a moments notice, life is about balance. Every action has a reaction.
Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. You have infinite weaknesses. Your strengths will be your lynchpin at times.
Always be curious. Don’t lose the will to learn and ask questions. Knowledge is everything.
Always stay moving physically that is biggest key to health diet and exercise and good sleep. Stay doing something productive. Being idle is the devils playground.
Listen to your gut during times of uncertainty. Trust very little of others. Words mean nothing. Actions never lie.
